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Nanjing brothers banquet table "China" turn children blame modern Express News (correspondent Xuan Zhao reporter Cai Yunzi Bailian Ru gong drum Gu Yuansen) this weekend 7 day National Day holiday will be officially opened, parties, travel…… Nanjing Gulou police combed the alarm before and after the holidays in recent years, hope that we can also be vigilant in the full enjoyment of the small holiday, careful and scale, to avoid some unnecessary trouble. This does not, who lives in Nanjing Gulou District Sanpailou Lu an uncle, recently because of problems with a child leads to serious family conflicts between brothers, strike violently. One family dinner, eat two brothers picked up a bottle of the modern express reporter learned that Lu an uncle had two sons, the Mid Autumn Festival dinner when the two son of Lu Lu uncle drank too much wine on a whim, give up sitting beside just kindergarten nephew lu. Lu Q nephew, just past the Mid Autumn Festival, the kindergarten teacher did not receive a red envelope, the boy said. Lumou said "you immediately interface, the kindergarten is poor!" Although the child is still small, also know that "beast" is not good, not too happy to hear, he argued for a few. Lumou take wine to tease him, he picked up a cup of wine, said to let the 5 year old nephew to drink two, he jokingly said they want to foster. Of course, the children do not want to drink, the mother saw the brother-in-law of pies, scowled rebuked the brother-in-law: "what a child to drink wine!" Lumou feel lost face, Jiujin and sister-in-law quarrel, and swearing. As a result, Lumou brother is not happy, he felt in his wife, brother bully son, also called his brother. Referred to the last, the two sides fight, and even take up the bottle, then the rest of the family will separate the two sides, but Lumou brothers were wounded and sent to hospital for treatment, but fortunately no serious injury, eventually in the central gate police station mediation, the two sides to shake hands. China type children malignant events caused harm caused by children although not much, but some children’s behavior for the harm is caused by the minds of children in reality. This "China type children" has actually become a tease. The children made mistakes, or even panic, afraid to cry, adults will laugh. The adult children may not be malicious, or even for the love of children, which is a harmful behavior but for children. Because children do not understand the joke, they will take it seriously, the adult "funny" will often make them feel anger, fear, anxiety, deceived, not being respected. The following 3 kinds of ways to amuse the children with a malicious. 1, the intimidation of the child, let the children feel insecure and fearful. We can often hear similar words, "Mom and Dad don’t you", "you picked up" like a joke, only children listened very seriously may. It is reported that the incident occurred recently in Sichuan, my mother let 7 year old sister’s baby brother, did not expect to turn a moment, her brother up fell down, in grief, that is why neighbor aunt sister once said a word, the mother gave birth to the younger brother don’t you, aunt said to forget, my sister was recorded in the heart. 2, deceive children, child.

南京亲兄弟酒席桌前翻脸 “中国式”逗孩子惹的祸现代快报讯(通讯员 鼓公宣 赵柏恋茹 蔡云子 记者 顾元森)本周末国庆7天小长假将正式开启,聚会、旅行……南京鼓楼警方梳理了近年来节假日前后的警情,希望大家在充分享受小长假时也能引起警惕,注意分寸和尺度,避免一些不必要的麻烦。这不,家住南京鼓楼区三牌楼的陆大爷一家,最近就因为逗孩子的问题引发了严重的家庭矛盾,亲兄弟之间大打出手。一家人席间吃饭 兄弟俩抡起酒瓶现代快报记者了解到,陆大爷一家有两个儿子,中秋节家宴时陆大爷的二儿子陆某喝多了酒一时兴起,便逗起了坐在身旁才刚上幼儿园的侄子小陆。陆某问侄子,刚过去的中秋节幼儿园老师有没有收红包,孩子说没有。陆某立刻接口说,“你们幼儿园是穷鬼!”孩子虽然还小,也知道“穷鬼”不是好话,听了不太开心,就争辩了几句。陆某趁着酒劲更想逗他,居然拎起了一小杯酒,说要让5岁的侄子喝两口,他戏谑地称酒量要从小培养。孩子当然不愿意喝,孩子妈妈看不惯小叔子的做派,沉下脸斥责小叔子:“小孩子喝什么酒!”陆某感觉失了面子,借着酒劲与嫂子吵起来,并骂骂咧咧。这样一来,陆某的哥哥不乐意了,他感觉弟弟在欺负自己的老婆、儿子,也骂起弟弟来。闹到最后,双方厮打起来,甚至抢起了酒瓶,后来其余家人将双方分开,但陆某兄弟俩都受了伤,送到医院诊治,所幸伤势不重,最终在中央门派出所民警的调解下,双方才握手言和。中国式逗孩子引发的危害由于逗孩子而引发的恶性事件虽然不多见,但有些人逗小孩的行为对于孩子心灵造成的危害却是实实在在的。这种“中国式逗孩子”实际上成了一种戏弄。把孩子逗得出错,或者惊慌、害怕甚至哭泣,大人们便笑了。逗孩子的那些成人也许并没有恶意,甚至还是出于对孩子的喜爱,但对孩子来说这是一种伤害行为。因为孩子不懂大人们的玩笑,他们会当真,成人的“逗”往往会让他们感到愤怒、惊恐、不安、被欺骗、不被尊重。下面3种逗孩子的方式已经带有了一些恶意。1、恐吓孩子,让孩子感到不安和恐惧。我们经常能听见类似的话,“爸爸妈妈不要你了”,“你是捡来的”之类的玩笑话,单纯的孩子听了很可能就当真。据悉,近日四川发生的一起事件中,妈妈让7岁的姐姐照看刚出生的弟弟,没想到转身的一会功夫,姐姐把弟弟抱起来摔下了楼,在悲痛之余,细究原因发现原来是邻居大妈曾经跟姐姐说过一句话,妈妈生了弟弟就不要你了,大妈说过就忘了,姐姐却记在了心间。2、欺骗孩子,孩子不敢再信任他人。大人总觉得孩子不记事,是可以哄骗的,但当孩子一旦发现自己被骗,在茫然无措甚至号啕大哭的同时,孩子纯粹的心灵会蒙上一层阴影。3、怂恿孩子做坏事,让孩子是非不分。除了戏弄孩子之外,很多大人逗孩子以能娱乐自己为目的。如有的大人给孩子抽烟逗乐,有的人看了后只是哈哈一笑,但从孩子的角度考虑,这不但伤害了他们的身体,也对孩子的是非观、认识周围的人带来困惑。面对恶意“逗”孩子,家长应该怎么做那么,家长在孩子被“逗”的时候该怎么做呢?当孩子被愚弄的时候,家长要第一时间站出来,保护自己的孩子不被愚弄。不要因为碍于面子保持沉默或者陪笑,更不要劝自己的孩子,或者去替那些逗孩子的人解释,那样会让孩子感觉到孤立,连父母都不能理解和支持他。举例来说,家长可以先平和的把孩子的感受说出来:xx,你是不喜欢大家这样逗你是吗?孩子听到这句话,便知道爸爸(妈妈)理解他,愤怒、不安的情绪可以得到安抚。接着,家长可以平静的对孩子说:大家其实是喜欢你,不过这种方式让你不舒服了是不是?如果他们换一种方式表达对你的喜欢,你能接受的对吗?这句话一方面说给孩子听,让孩子了解大家对他并没有恶意;一方面也说给亲友听,让亲友明白孩子不喜欢大家用这种方式对他,换一种尊重孩子的方式孩子能够接受。说这话的时候不能带情绪,不能有指责的口气,开明的亲友听到家长和孩子这样的对话一般能理解孩子为何会愤怒,至少能意识到家长不喜欢别人这么逗他的孩子,大多数人会识趣的打住。如果亲友们还是不知趣,继续逗孩子,那么家长要果断地对亲友们说“不”:各位,我知道大家是喜欢我的孩子才逗他,不过这种方式孩子不能接受,请大家换种方式和孩子交流,谢谢。必要的时候可以带孩子暂时离开一会,先照顾孩子的情绪,事后再跟亲友沟通。只要家长得体的处理,可以做到既保护了孩子又不会得罪亲友,万不得已的情况下,宁可得罪亲友,也不能牺牲孩子的心理健康。警方希望,在即将到来的国庆小长假期间,亲友之间表达对孩子的喜爱可以注意分寸和形式,家长也应在适当的时候站出来保护自己的孩子,不要将好事变成坏事,乐极生悲。相关的主题文章: